We’ll work out more. Eat better. Drink less wine. Go to bed early to get up early. Meditate. Read more. Worry less. Get dressed every day. Spend wisely. Drink more water. Travel more. Take more baths. Be in the moment more. Stop X and start Y.
The easy part is starting. The trickier part is sticking with it.
The second Friday in January has come to be known as Quitter’s Day. This year that infamous day is Friday, January 14, 2022. How are you celebrating?
Maybe this year you don’t.
Maybe on Thursday, January 13 you celebrate “I’m not giving up on me” day. Did I invent this day? Yes. Is there a hashtag, schwag or a following for it yet? No.
But if you are really committed to starting – and more importantly – sticking with a new habit, you need to make sure that it is attainable.
Here’s how to stick to your new habit in the New Year.
Drilling down and getting specific on how you desire to feel is the best way to choose what habit you want to start or change.
Let’s use the “work out more” habit as an example.
Why do you want to workout more? Is it because you want to feel stronger? Feel better in your jeans? Because you are training for something bigger?
Without a tailored reason of how you want to feel about “working out more” you will lose sight of the goal and barely make it through the hard stuff like sore muscles and the lure of a cookie over a run.
This also holds weight for any other goal. It’s easy to say you want to go to bed earlier. But what is the reason? So that you can wake up earlier? So that you can read in bed before going to sleep? So that you feel better?
When you have an end goal in mind about what you desire to feel, then you will be able to stick with your new habit because you will have something to measure it against.
Take inventory of your life. There are many things that you are already good at and consistent with. Use those things as a way to welcome a new habit by tacking it on to something you already do.
When you are hungry, you come back for more. Or when the feeling of whatever you did is so good, you will be anxious to feel that again.
With this in mind, take your goal and chunk it up into small and attainable goals. Start small – almost ridiculously small – and then add from there. Don’t push yourself so hard in the first two weeks of creating a new habit that you wear yourself out or injure yourself where you abandon the project altogether.
For instance:
This one is hard for overachievers, Type A’s or people that are really motivated to make big changes.
But the reality is you only have a few hours in your day to sustainably commit to a new habit. There is not enough time in the day to workout every day AND read every day AND cook healthy meals every day AND go to bed early every night.
Be realistic and pick the thing you not only want the most but have the time to commit to.
With a sense of accomplishment from staying focused on one goal and seeing results, you will crave more positive change when the time comes to commit to something else.
In a world of social media and general oversharing, the concept of declaring your intention to the world has become something normal and expected. But when it comes to changing or introducing new habits, there is absolutely no reason to put yourself on a pedestal or in the spotlight. In reality, it can do more harm than good.
Stay accountable to you, not a bunch of people that aren’t even paying attention. Instead, try:
You are working hard and staying consistent to changing your habit. You deserve to give yourself a pat on the back. And that pat on the back can come in the form of all kinds of rewards from purchases to setting time aside for something you love to do but don’t indulge in.
For instance,
Do you feel instantly different the moment the ball drops in NY and after you toasted with friends? No? Me either.
January 1 is just a date on the calendar. But in reality in means nothing. It’s not like you can’t evolve into a healthier, happier you if you start on a day
You can start your new habit on any day of the week at any time of the day.
That can be on a Tuesday at 3 pm. You can start your new habit on a Sunday at 9 pm. You can even start your habit on June 8 at 11:13 am.
The point is to start where you are with the resources you can. Sometimes taking the pressure off being someone new is the best way to commit to being the person you want to be.
If you want to dive further into the why behind habits and how to break or make them, I highly recommend reading The Desire Map, The Power of Habits and Atomic Habits.
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]]>That puts us at about just under 20 visits to the Holy City (called that because the number of church steeples dotting the Charleston skyline).
So while I may not be expert level on all things Charleston, I can say with confidence that anything from the following itinerary will make your long weekend visit to downtown Charleston something amazing.
While there are a bunch of apartment rentals to choose from, we have always gone the hotel route. We never cook a thing while in Charleston because the food scene is so good. So to us there is absolutely no reason to have a kitchen that we won’t use.
We enjoy having a cup of coffee, an evening nightcap, access to a gym (as if we ever use it though), and other perks and amenities of a hotel stay.
Through the years we have settled on a few spots that are great places to stay for the hospitality and the location.
This former federal building looks unassuming and a little blah from the outside. But step in and you feel like you are walking onto the set of Mad Men. The service is top notch and the rooms swanky and super clean.
Located right in the heart of the city on Marion Square, it is a perfect place to call home base and walk to nearly everything on your to see list. On Saturday's the Farmer's Market sets up in the park opposite The Dewberry making it a great place to stroll and check out the vendors, food trucks and vibe.
The Dewberry is outfitted with a spa, rooftop bar (the tallest in the city), cocktail lounge and event space. They put an emphasis on the tiny touches with herbal tea and hot towels at check in, the most alluring candle scent permeating all public spaces of the hotel, hand-chiseled and logo stamped ice cubes for the Old Fashioned cocktails in the Living Room, gratis car service within a 9 mile radius of the hotel plus so many other perks that make this a delight of a place to rest and relax.
A room at The Dewberry
This spot is the epitome of urban charm and Southern hospitality. The rooms are large but cozy and come with all kinds of perks and pleasures to make your stay exquisite.
The rooftop pool is the perfect place to cool off during a hot summer day or just to relax with a book between adventures and cocktail hour. The attached coffee house will fuel you for your day ahead and The Library will help you wind down with a good book or cocktail in the evening.
In room spa services are also a perk of The Restoration (though we have never indulged in this – yet).
Located on Wentworth, The Restoration is tucked closer into the middle of the shopping and where there is more hustle and bustle. But that doesn’t mean it will be loud or overwhelming.
The Harbourview Inn was a spot that we initially stayed in early on in our adult only weekend trips to CHS. Since our last stay and based on the website, it looks like they upgraded and redesigned the rooms which was needed.
The Harbourview is, as the name suggests, on the harbor and near the iconic pineapple fountain. With views of the harbor, Fort Sumter (a tiny view), the Ravenal Bridge and park, it is very much in the thick of things. It gets a little more touristy around here and parking requires a stay in the attached garage. But it is still a great location to call home base as it is walking distance to the Battery, King Street shopping, Queen Street restaurants and where many tours ordinate from.
A complimentary breakfast (which I have always found robust and delicious), evening wine and cheese reception and cookies and milk near bedtime make the Harbourview a little gem. Plus, if you are persnickety about your mattress (ahem), you’ll be thrilled to know that they have Temperpedic mattresses throughout all rooms.
For a long weekend in Charleston, plan on bringing stretchy pants to make room for all the incredible things you will eat and drink while there.
For something more casual but always a solid choice, head to Leon’s Oyster Shop. You’ll need to take an Uber or Lyft there if staying at any of the aforementioned locations. The vibe is super chill, the food is delicious (focus on oysters and fried chicken), the drinks are cold (rose on tap anyone) and the service is always solid.
It might seem weird to settle on an Italian restaurant in a Southern town but I promise it will be one of the best meals you have ever had. The restaurant just got a new chef and amplified some of its already delicious dishes. The happy hour is a solid choice if you are doing the eat all day thing. It would be wrong to miss the rotating agnolotti pasta dish.
This charming little spot in the Cannonborough Elliottborough neighborhood is a must visit. The influences of the Pacific Northwest meets Southern food in the vegetable forward menu that rotates regularly. The service is like that of white tablecloth restaurants but without all the fuss. We’ve also dined here with kids and found it easy to find something for them to eat. Literally everything on the menu is divine. You can't go wrong.
This spot on King always has an absurd wait list with no opportunity for reservations. During our last trip, we put our name in and were told 2 hours and 45 minutes, which was fine since we had a tour to go on. The call came earlier that our table was ready so we had to exit the tour early. Lesson learned: just go shopping while waiting for 167.
They have a strong oyster menu plus a rotating list of dishes based on the fish they get in that day. Weirdly, despite the long wait list, the restaurant was not filled to the brim. In any event, if oysters by day are your thing and you have the patience, you won’t be disappointed by this spot.
167 Raw Oyster Menu and Fresh Fish Board
The great place about 5 Church is that it is a restaurant inside a former church. Can you say charming? The food is consistently good and the service thoughtful. The drink list is solid as is the wine list. It’s a little loud inside because of the lack of acoustics but that wouldn’t be anything to keep me away. It is tucked in a touristy location so that is, for me, not a highlight. But the spot and the food is worth working around the crowd.
Now, we are admittedly getting older and crankier in our old age of 40s. Charleston is a party town and during the school year, is a college town. So my recommendations for where to drink meet these qualifications:
A swanky spot to enjoy the most addictive caramel and cayenne popcorn and stellar cocktails like their famous Old Fashioned or French 75 or Aviation. It is definitely on the chill end of the where to drink list here. But wow are the drinks perfection. Start the night there for a cocktail or simmer before heading to bed.
It can definitely be a little much with the kids and the crowds. But the drinks are incredible and the space is uber cool so it is well worth it to me. Plus – and my favorite – they have live music Thursday – Sunday with always, always, always good talent. If you go and are in the mood for a strong cocktail, try the Double Standard.
This spot is super swanky and cool – as long as you are inside. Most recently we were sat outside with the kids and we felt super out of place (and could not hear each other). They have live music on some nights and a fantastic wine list. We snubbed our nose at reservations and it was our mistake. Don’t make it yours too.
An adorable and tiny little place with great drinks and a super charming feeling. I couldn’t make a night of drinking here but it is worth a stop on King as you bar hop, particularly at the end of the night so you can indulge in a house made pop tart.
Another swanky and adorable spot with cool drinks, Southern-focused menu and live music is Prohibition. They don’t take reservations so you’ll have to get there at the right time or have some luck on your side. It’s worth taking a shot though.
Oh the happy hour at Husk is among our favorites. If we are in the area and it fits our time schedule with dinner reservations, we will often pop in here for a drink and a good snack.
I mean… if you love gin this is your honey hole. It is a tiny space so you either have the luck to catch a spot or you have a wait on your hands. But it is worth taking a whirl for the atmosphere and the drink list you won’t find anywhere else.
I don’t like to be by tourists in the evening, I am a proud tourist during the day. There is SO much rich history in Charleston, you would be silly to not take part in a walking tour, trip to Fort Sumpter, take a class or go on a ghost tour (which would be at night with tourists).
We have done the horse drawn carriage ride on our first trip and I hated it. The history and the tour was great. But being sandwiched with a bunch of people on a cart pulled by a horse in the middle of summer (and while pregnant) was not fun. Plus there are too many stories of horses going lame because of heat exhaustion that I just can’t get behind or recommend this angle at seeing the city.
Instead tours are available by foot, scooter, air conditioned van or semi private carriage rides if you must (a better choice for horses).
We have done a few different tour companies and found them all to be pretty good - not one exceptionally better than the other. So my advice: Google your way through whatever tour sounds fun and feel confident that the people giving it are good stuff.
We have found some really cool tours, wine tastings and new takes on touristy things through the Preservation Society of Charleston. A bonus is that supporting the programs of the Society means that the focus can continue to remain on the history of the city.
We most recently took a cocktail mixing class at Circa 1886. It was a private event and we got to each make a drink based on our favorite spirit (gin for me, bourbon for the hubs). We also learned about making limoncello (and other derivatives of it) as well as sampled some various spirits we have never tried before. We learned things we never knew, got to learn more about the city from a unique point of view and spent some time together.
A few years ago we took a wine blending class at the Grand Bohemian Hotel and wow was it fun. We learned about the varietals that go into making a wine, did some chemistry work and then walked away with two bottles to have later. It was a fun and interesting experience that took a few hours. If this is not something you can do at home, I highly recommend trying it while away.
If headed to CHS with the ladies and wanting to do a chill and non-touristy activity, book a class at Candlefish. You’ll learn about how to make a candle that burns correctly, go on an olfactory exploration and pour your own two, 9-oz candles to bring home. And because it is Charleston, you know there is cocktails. BYOB to get lit as they say.
Admittedly, there is a lot of drinking in Charleston. But even those who imbibe need to tone it down.
So between cocktails, you will find some great shopping opportunities in apparel, antiques, art, specialty food and more. King Street is typically where a lot of the shopping is, though there are some great shops by the harbor. Don’t miss the sandwich signs for spots located above street level.
Favorite places to dip into include the Anthropologie on King (I swear they have the best selection of all the Anthros), Candlefish, Copper Penny, Maris Dehart, Indigo, Sapphire Boutique and M. Dumas and Sons for the guys and Blue Bicycle Books for a local bookstore with lots of signed editions.
Charleston, SC is one of the most charming cities to visit for a weekend, a week, with a crowd or with your special someone. Once you go, you will want to return again and again. And with this list of things to do in Charleston for a long weekend, you’ll need a few visits to do and see it all.
]]>California’s wine country is a magical place to visit. If you are planning a trip to Napa or Sonoma, you are in for a big treat. But you’ll want to be well researched and have a good strategy to make the most of your trip like what to wear to wine taste and where are some of the best and less touristy wineries to visit.
In the last 17 years, my husband and I have been fortunate to visit 11 times, most recently this month for a client event.
In all those years, there have never been two trips alike, which means it is a place that is impossible to get bored of.
Over the course of our visits, I've learned what to wear (and not wear) and discovered some of the best wineries to spend a few hours relaxing, sipping wine, eating amazing food and taking in the chill atmosphere of northern California's wine country.
For this Clevelander, wine country is gorgeous at nearly any time of the year. But my favorite time is the Fall because the temps are cooling and the leaves on the vines and trees start to turn. It also happens to be the busiest time of the year because wineries are harvesting grapes for the upcoming vintage.
Because it high time, it takes a bit more research, planning and perhaps budget to visit at this time. Lodging prices are typically higher and restaurant reservations can be harder to come by if let to the last minute. Likewise, securing a driver or certain reservations at wineries can also get a little trickier.
If Fall doesn’t fit your schedule or budget, almost any time of the year is worth the trip. You’ll just need to plan for the weather, be it hot in the summer or rain in the winter and spring months.
California wine country is not only famous for its grapes but also for its big temperature swings – sometimes as much as 45 degrees in one day. Layers are key to being prepared for all kinds of weather and atmospheres.
In the summer and fall that means dresses with cardi’s, skirts with jackets, pants with tanks and light weight jackets. In the spring and winter you will want to add heavier layers, a trench or rain coat and perhaps an umbrella for any rain.
Another few things to keep in mind for what to wear in Napa and Sonoma:
Napa and Sonoma are very much the country. On tours and at certain wineries, you will be walking on dirt paths among the vines. Flats or booties are best for traversing this type of topography. Save the heels for dinners where the path is a bit more level and consistent.
It’s easy to get swept up in the idea of wine country with some accessories like hats and boots or to go overboard with getting super dressed up. But it is still normal life. You will feel like an urban cowboy or a Kardashian out of place if you take outfits too far.
At the same time, it is not the beach so punchy accessories really help make an outfit pop. Scarves, statement earrings and necklaces, cool shoes and sunglasses will help make you feel appropriate and well styled.
The Hanger Valet can help you organize your accessories when packing and keep you organized once you get settled in your accommodations.
You will be taking clothes off and putting them back on all day between the vineyards, tasting rooms, barrel rooms and caves. Work all outfits around a couple of layers that you can mix and match between outfits.
White pants look crisp and cool until you pour a glass of red wine on them. If you are planning white, just make sure you don’t have a few outfits rotating around a white blouse or white pants. And be sure to carry Wine Out in a travel size wherever you go.
If you are staying in downtown Yountville, St. Helena, Sonoma or Healdsburg, you will want to be walking around in the morning taking in the crisp air, city center square charm and local coffee shops. I’m not sure about you, but I would rather stroll in elevated athletic wear than be dressed for the day at that time of day. A pair of leggings, jacket, running shoes and sunglasses will have you feeling appropriate for the weather and the activity.
There is no shortage of wineries worth a visit in the Napa and Sonoma Valley. Before Covid, you would be able to drop in and taste for a nominal fee. Now, you will need to make reservations and be willing to part with a bit more time and tasting fees.
This might put the pressure on to create a winery itinerary you will love. Here are a few from Napa and Sonoma that have impressive tastings and memorable tours:
Tasting is Napa is pretty straightforward. You will either follow Highway 29 or Silverado Trail to get to most wineries. Some great spots are perched up on Spring Mountain, Howell Mountain, and Diamond Mountain. It takes some windy and twisty roads to get to those spots, but it is well worth it.
Artesa – This winery weaves art, architecture, and the unparalleled views of Napa into the entire experience of enjoying their incredible wines. While the tasting and view alone is reason to visit, the tour is worth the time and investment. The Tempreanillo is hands down my fave here.
Stag’s Leap – Steeped in history and fueled by intense but approachable wines, Stag’s Leap is a Napa must do if you are a first time visitor.
Ma(i)sonry, RH Yountville Wine Vault – This space has changed through the years but the wine remains consistent. Now as Restoration Hardware has taken it over the backdrop to the stunning wines makes it a feast for the eyes and tastebuds. Plus, if you are staying in Yountville, it is walkable to all the hotels on Washington.
Paraduxx – A tasting at Paraduxx is always a solid tasting. Though there are several levels of tasting to pick from, we have always thought the Paraduxx tasting to be a relaxing and delicious experience.
Round Pond Estate – Named one of the most beautiful wineries in Napa, Round Pond is as stunning to take in as is the wines and olive oil to taste.
Heitz – This family owned and Napa Valley OG is a must visit for Cabernet Sauvignon lovers. The Martha's Vineyard Cab is my last meal wine.
Pride Mountain – It takes some work getting there so be sure you have a DD or that it is your first stop of the day. Every single wine is as incredible as are the views, but the Merlot is a real stunner.
Frank Family Vineyards – Talk about a fun experience! A visit to Frank Family is the definition of cool and relaxed atmosphere. The wines will consistently knock your socks off and the super friendly staff will make it hard to leave.
Robert Craig – If you are lucky enough to have Elton lead a tasting, you have won the day. The wines are incredible and the people as authentic as they come. You can choose from tasting in Downtown Napa or the Howell Mountain Experience for a more immersive visit with barrel tastings and more hands on background of the process. We were lucky enough to do the Howell Mountain Experience and were overwhelmed by the vistas, tour and wine.
Cimarossa – Take a gator ride through the property and among vines to a little house for tasting and pairing of cheeses, nuts and meats. The Nebbiolo blew us away almost as much as the views.
Schramsberg – A delightful way to check out some bubbly and learn about how sparkling wine is made. While the tasting will do the job, the tour is really what makes this stop one of the best in which to discover what it takes to make those little bubbles possible.
View from Robert Craig on Howell Mountain
Tasting in Sonoma is a little trickier because the wineries are not on a straight shoot like Napa. It takes a bit more planning and strategizing to find your way from winery to winery. Plus, Sonoma is BIG so the time it takes to get from one winery to another is longer than in Napa typically.
Sonoma feels a little more homey and cozy too. The wineries are still gorgeous but they don’t have the same ritz as the Napa ones. Personally I like the feel of Sonoma over Napa.
Dutcher Crossing – Picturesque views, delicious wines and friendly people. Dutcher is the definition of Sonoma charm. The Bacigalupi Vineyard Zin is a party in a glass and one of my faves in the Valley.
Flowers – Talk about an impressive tasting experience. From the welcome glass of wine to the cabana we perched in for the tasting, and every bite of the food that accompanied the wine blew us away. A new favorite and will always be on our circuit year after year.
Rued – Family owned and hand crafted wines means a low key and very Sonoma kind of feel. Plus the tastings are a bit less expensive but still a solid choice.
Repris – Set high above the valley floor and perched on Moon Mountain sits Repris. Their wines are stunning and bold. The views and the cave are jaw dropping. And the people that take you through your tasting journey are as approachable and humble as you can find. The Left Bank and Right Bank are fan favorites but the Zin is my favorite here.
Aperature - A stunning backdrop and building in which to spend a few hours relaxing and sipping on cool-climate Bordeaux.
View from Dutcher Crossing outdoor patio
If this is your first time to northern California's wine country, be prepared to fall in love. While there are other wine region in the US that are fabulous, there is just something about Napa and Sonoma that keeps you coming back for more.
Cheers!
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Returning to work is looking different and more flexible post-pandemic. Now that it is your choice to work from home, you'll need to develop new strategies and tools for staying productive and focused and avoiding burnout. Here are some lessons I've learned and tips to share from my own experience of working from home for more than 15 years.
]]>And while we have been working from home for the last year out of necessity, in many cases now it is a decision to stay home. That means that a new skill set is needed to stay focused and productive – especially as restrictions loosen, the weather warms and we are tempted to blow off work to go have some fun.
Prior to launching The Hanger Valet, I was a PR and Marketing consultant and freelancer for a handful of Cleveland marketing and advertising firms. For more than 15 years I worked from home or hoteled in client offices.
During that time I learned valuable lessons about how to work from home efficiently and most importantly, how to develop boundaries and manage expectations so I didn’t burn out or miss deadlines.
If your job has offered the option to work from home or if you are one of the thousands that have decided to pivot and take your side hustle to the next level by working for yourself, the following are lessons I’ve learned about working for yourself or remotely:
There is a cognitive correlation between being prepared for the day by being dressed for the day. It's actually called "enclothed cognition." Your dialogue with clients, customers and co-workers is more refined and the ability to jump in on a Zoom, Skype or even in person meeting is so much easier when you are presentable.
Take it a step further and plan your outfits ahead with the help of The Hanger Valet. By investing the time in this habit, you will carve out time in your morning to do things for yourself like workout, catch up on news, meditate or sleep in a bit longer.
You can only do your job well if you are feeding yourself well. That means saying no to constant snacking and yes to nutrition and hydration. Like planning your outfits ahead, take the time on the weekend or the night before to prep ingredients or meals so you have time to eat and minimize the time it takes to cleanup after lunch.
The term out of sight out of mind applies to working from home – especially if part of your team is in the office and you are out. Make a point to check in with co-workers and see how their weekend was.
Plan trips into the office for lunches. Be sure to sign the birthday cards when you do stop in. Demonstrate that though away, you are still an active member of the team.
You don’t want to give reason for managers or bosses to forget about you, your work, your contribution and your potential to grow into bigger roles with the company.
Yes… I know you have a boss. But when you are working from home, you will be your own boss too. Establishing healthy boundaries is vital to keeping your momentum going and avoiding burnout.
If your boss told you, after working a full day of work, to return to your office at 8 pm and continue working until 1 am, how long do you think you would last in that role?
Resist the urge to “get one more thing done” at night. Say no to working on the weekend “to get ahead for the week.”
Of course, at times and with some projects you will need to do that. But to do it on the regular means you will grow to hate your job and role because you have a mean boss – and that mean boss is you!
A routine are the things you find important that you get done in a day such as working out, reading the news, talking with a friend, working on a project, investing in a hobby. A schedule is how you fit those things into the hours of the day.
Without a natural flow of a schedule at work (people breaking for lunch, heading into meetings, grabbing coffee with a co-worker, socializing with people at the lunch spot, etc.) it is easy to lose parts of your routine. It’s also easy to let your routine impact your schedule.
Not every day will be perfect, but having a schedule that supports your routine and a commitment to your routine will help you have work life balance.
You are not a machine. You need breaks from your schedule and routine to have fun and enjoy life. So take the vacation – away from your house.
You need human interaction in some capacity, even as an introvert. So plan lunches, coffee meetings or happy hours with friends or co-workers.
Don’t let stress overtake your soul. If you need a break, take the break. When you create clear lines and boundaries for the fun and the recharging, you are more likely to be able to stay focused, efficient, productive and a supportive member of your team and your company.
Even someone that enjoys regiments and routines can grow tired of the same old.
In order to avoid burnout or depression, make sure to change your scenery from time to time. That could mean changing your working location for a period of time, scheduling more lunches or coffee breaks out of your home, taking courses that stretch your mind and social skills or purposely networking after hours.
Like how a vacation from our jobs can help us reorient our productivity, so too can minor tweaks to our daily schedules.
Everyone thinks working from home is easy and that you can get so much extra stuff done – like laundry, being home for the kids to get off the bus, be available for home repairs, be there to take the dog out, etc. But those extra tasks can really weigh on you over time.
Certain personalities will do well with working from home. And some will not. The only way is to try it and adapt as necessary.
If you decide to try out working from home and it is a struggle, don’t beat yourself up for it not feeling right. Nothing is wrong with you that it doesn’t feel comfortable. Returning to the office doesn’t mean you aren’t a disciplined person or are needy. It just means you enjoy the energy of being around other people and do your best work in those environments.
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But in your closet organization project, you may have overlooked a few super helpful - and dare I say - essential closet gadgets that will help you stay organized and keep your clothes and you looking polished.
Take a look at some of our favorite closet gadgets and products that help you start the day organized, help you look polished and keep your clothes looking their best for years to come.
If you’ve ever been short on time in the morning or feel a little worried you will forget something for an outfit, then The Hanger Valet will simplify the process of getting ready for the day or event.
Use the four clear zippered pockets to keep accessories, jewelry, socks, undergarments, shapeware, or anything else small that goes with an outfit. The back fabric pocket makes it easy to discreetly store anything you want out of site or to hold a scarf, clutch or anything not easily hung on a hanger.
Sold individually or as a M-F bundle. (There is also a children’s version to keep those busy school mornings running smoothly all while teaching independence and building confidence.)
This genius wardrobe styling tool holds an acrylic frame from a hanger so you can insert a picture of an outfit to wear as inspiration or as direction and then plan the outfit behind it. It’s like the kissing cousin to The Hanger Valet but with visual prompts so you know exactly what an outfit will look like.
For anyone that has ever worked with a stylist and walked away with a look book or flat lay collage, having this tool will help bring a bit more organization and inspiration to your closet.
As a person who absolutely hates to iron, steaming my clothes is really the only way to ensure I don’t arrive looking like a rumpled mess.
The linked steamer uses distilled water and requires minimal maintenance. It also requires minimal maintenance and cleaning.
I’m a Gemini so I tend to have two of things I love. Two hairdryers. Two pairs of my favorite booties. Having a backup is the name of my game and I’m not ashamed.
So having a travel steamer ensures that should the big steamer go down, I have backup. But also, the travel steamer never gets left behind whenever I travel for work or fun.
The one linked uses tap water (because who travels with distilled water) and can steam a jumpsuit, polo and pair of pants on one water tank and in about 10 minutes.
Isn’t it funny how the smallest of things can bring the most joy? This is the story behind a large scoop closet hook.
A few years ago I installed one in my closet. This is the place I pull garments to create outfits, prepare my outfits ahead (using The Hanger Valet of course) and hang freshly steamed garments and not worry about them wrinkling.
Make sure to pick a hook with a large scoop and that can hold a good amount of weight. You don’t want hangers slipping off the hook – or worse – having the hook coming out of your wall under the weight of clothes. This one from Anthropologie looks adorable and perfect.
Yes I know this product is called wine away, but the truth is it can be used for nearly any stain. Blood, chocolate, tomato sauce, pesto, wine, wine and wine. There was one summer that without fail, every time I wore a pair of white linen capri’s, I would spill red wine on them. This genie in a bottle removed any sign of a spill and allowed the wine to completely wash out.
The orange scent is pleasant to smell and the formula is biodegradable.
Wine Away can be found at World Market (linked), Amazon or at neighborhood wine stores. A bottle usually lasts us a year and that is with two wine drinkers in the house and two kids that use their shirts as napkins.
Next to ironing, my least favorite clothing maintenance task is shaving sweaters. Like HATE it. (If there is anyone out there that offers this as a service, please tell me.)
The hatred of shaving sweaters sometimes impacts the sweaters I choose to wear. For too many years I would leave the cashmere sweaters on the shelf because I did not want to deal with maintaining them. What a waste.
Then along came this sweater stone that makes quick work of removing the pills. Simply lay the sweater on a hard surface and brush the stone in one direction in short swipes. Even if you are like me and have zero patience, this sweater stone makes quick work of shaving. Just make sure you don’t go too fast and make sure to wipe down the surface and vacuum the floor from the little sand bits that get left behind from the stone.
These bags are the workhorse of the laundry room. From bras to underwear to strappy cami’s to masks to scarves, these little bags make it possible to keep clothes looking their best for longer.
I’m a firm believer there can never be too many of these bags. Plus, as a Gemini (see above) I need backups of backups. Because laundry without a lingerie bag just seems barbaric.
PS: I like these bags because of the honeycomb structure and that they use YKK zippers - the industry leader in zippers (and what we use on all Hanger Valet's).
Speaking of laundry, Dryel At-Home Dry Cleaner bags are also a non-negotiable for clothes washing. The process could not be easier for light cleaning of dry-clean only garments.
Simply pop the item in the bag (make sure to pre-treat stains or spots) and put in the dryer based on the recommendations with the kit.
My husband uses this for his business shirts and other dry clean only items. For items that are heavily soiled or that may require more care, traditional dry cleaning is probably recommended.
We started using Dryel At Home years ago because the dry cleaning bills were getting to be excessive and my husband was getting sensitive to the smells and wondered what all that chemicals were doing to him. While we still get items traditionally dry cleaned, Dryel is our first step on 95% of our items.
Do you have a closet, laundry or otherwise similar gadgetry you can’t live without? If so, tell me about it!
Note: The suggestions are simply products I love and think you will too. If you choose to click or buy anything, I will NOT earn a commission.
]]>This year was especially taxing on Moms with the homeschooling, working from home, cooking a bazillion meals a day, keeping all the balls in the air, being there emotionally for everyone in the house and making the magic happen day in and day out.
Mom is tired. She needs more than a nap, flowers and brunch this year. Maybe she'd like a hangover.
Or maybe she would like any one of the other unique, creative, thoughtful, or special gifts that we've included in our Mother's Day Gift Guide 2021.
Above all, if you are a Dad, husband or significant other managing Mother’s Day this year, make sure the kids get Mom a card. Any Mom with young kids would love a handmade card with a message from their child. As Ina says "store bought is fine" but for Mother's Day, homemade is actually perfect.
Mom’s are always the last to spend on themselves and the last to get ready. After this last year of yoga pants and uber casual wear, many women are apprehensive about what to wear and how to wear it. A gift certificate to work with a personal stylist will help her build her wardrobe and her confidence. Plus it is time away from the family where she can focus on herself and allow someone else to invest in her.
If this sounds like fun, you might like to read How to Pick a Stylist + Recommendations.
In that blog, we give our 10/10 recommendations on the following stylists: Kendra Bissig from The Blonde Mom, Hallie Abrams from The Wardrobe Consultant, Pat Gibson from The Artistry of You, Iva Marie Creed from Mile High in Heels, Theodora Pace from Cha Cha Olivia.
You can gift her with a gift card for styling along with The Hanger Valet so she can organize her new outfits and get ready easier.
Stress causes wrinkles. Wrinkles make Mom’s cranky. Ergo, help us get rid of the wrinkles by sending us to the spa for a HydraFacial. These facials cleanse, exfoliate and infuse the skin with intensive serums leaving skin plump and fresh. She will look immediately younger and fresher with zero downtime.
HydraFacials are available at virtually any medical spa or upscale skincare facility. They range in price between $125 and $200 depending on where you live and the type of spa.
If you have room in your budget, I recommend adding a little extra to the gift card so she can purchase some of the products that were used during her service.
To find a location near you, search “HydraFacial” and do a little research – including cross checking on Instagram – on the facility, estheticians and customer reviews. Or just ask what her favorite and most needed spa service is and where she likes best. Simple and done.
If your wife or significant other is known for wearing old t-shirts and boxers to bed, it might be time to give her the gift of new pajamas. They are often the last thing we buy for ourselves but make us feel important, cared for and like we have our sh*t together.
Lots of beautiful pajamas are out there including from Soma, Anthropologie, Eberjay, Tanya Taylor or Nordstrom. A set including a pair of shorts and cami with coordinating pants or robe will create a mix and match situation she can wear and feel fabulous multiple nights a week.
And if you don’t hit the mark, no big deal. Give her the gift receipt and let her pick out a replacement. Don’t make a big deal of it. Pajamas can be very personal and specific for women.
Bags and purses can also be especially personal and specific for women (ahem, me). So it is a good idea to do some research on what she already carries. Does she gravitate to designer or familiar brands? Or does she prefer unique bags that are handmade from small businesses? And what about shape and size and material?
Is she a tote gal that that regularly sticks her computer in her bag? Then the Penn Carryall from Blaire Ritchey is a solid and gorgeous choice.
Is she more of a hand-held person and likes to wear something special for nights out? The Finley Clutch from Fount will last for years and just gets better with age.
Does she like super one of a kind bags she can have a hand in designing? Remnants not only has a ton of unique bags, but also offers custom order options ensuring Mom's bag is one of a kind.
And if leather is not her thing but a well constructed and beautiful silhouette is what you are after, this vegan Cher Tote from Angela Roi is the perfect addition to her collection.
As they say, the days drag but the years fly. Mom’s can be so busy in the day to day that we forget to write down the special moments and develop the pictures.
This book or something similar is just the ticket to give her year to year with answers directly from the kids. If possible, have them write their answers. Go the extra mile and attach a picture of the child at the age or create a video of them reading it so she can remember them how they were at that age.
Is Mom always the one taking the picture and rarely if ever in the picture? It's time to get her in the frame.
Take the lead and schedule a family photographer to come over and snap some pics of the candid moments. Prove that you’ve put thought into this by buying a beautiful frame a family photo can go in. You might even go so far as to pick out coordinating outfits for you and the kids (with the help of The Hanger Valet of course) to show how much thought went into this.
Yes, she might freak out that she isn’t in charge of this. But gently remind her that you want her to be in the picture and it is a no pressure memory you are hoping to make for her. I promise after she calms down she will be forever grateful.
If this seems like scheduling a photographer is too big a move for you, then simply taking the photos of her in the everyday with her interacting with the kids (laying on the couch, kissing them in the morning or goodnight, reading with them, cooking, watching the kids play at home, perform in dance or play sports) and developing those into a book or digital keepsake will blow her away at the thoughtfulness.
Wow do we miss our friends. In a year when we had to park it at home for not only safety reasons but because the work of being a Mom stretched from sunup to sundown plus the hours in between, we are hungry for girl time.
Join forces with the guys and buy the special Mom’s in your life the gift of a night away. Whether you send her on a trip that requires a plane ride or she goes 30 minutes down the road, get her out of the house and out with the girls. Plan a dinner and if possible and budget allows, a spa treatment. Take care of a many details as possible (but be sure to check that family calendar first).
Hint hint: Charleston is always a good idea.
If sending Mom away for a restorative weekend is out of the budget, then consider smaller but lovely gifts she can use at home to find peace and relaxation each night or on the weekend.
Things like a silk pillowcase for a more gentle and peaceful night of rest or restorative yoga props like a bolster, blocks and blanket plus a gift card to a restorative yoga class near you.
Nope. Not talking about Jelly Beans.
Mother’s Day comes and goes so fast, especially when it means seeing grandmother’s and other mother figures on that one Sunday a year. Or, if she is a Mom of children in spring sports, there is a high probability she will be spending the day watching baseball, lacrosse, soccer, dance recitals or similar that weekend.
You will never find a Mom that would be annoyed to be thanked regularly for being an awesome Mom. The best way to do that – a monthly subscription gift box.
Last year my husband got me Shaker & Spoon – a cocktail subscription box. Every month we spend a date night at home mixing drinks and catching up on our lives. We’ve also built it into patio drinks with friends as something different to do. It is always a hit month after month and is something fun to look forward to.
Other subscription boxes that would be super fun to get:
A Parnassus Books First Editions Club subscription for the book lover who puts a priority on reading new books signed by the authors.
Stitchfix or Trunk Club for the woman who never has time or hates to shop for herself (and isn't ready for a personal stylist as mentioned above).
A Wine Club subscription (we have been members of Repris, Dutcher Crossing, Artesa and MCellars before and recommend them all).
Cheesemonger Box because let’s be honest – eating cheese and wine is the perfect dinner.
Note: The items in the gift guide are simply my suggestions and recommendations. If you choose to click or buy anything, I will NOT earn a commission.
]]>Something just feels off once you are looking at yourself in the mirror. Now it is crunch time and you are pulling everything off hangers and trying on different shoes to give the outfit some sizzle.
The minutes tick down and now it is time to leave. Your closet is in a total disaster and you leave not feeling all that great about what you are wearing.
It doesn’t have to be this way.
As you all know, I am a BIG fan of Hallie Abrams from The Wardrobe Consultant. I find her fashion advice to be solid and her tips to be practical and applicable. Which is why I have partnered with her on the series How To make an Outfit Interesting on this blog.
Previously she lent her advice about how to use layered necklaces to make an outfit interesting. Now she shares a simple rule that always makes an outfit look and feel elevated – the third piece rule.
The formula is simple – a top and a bottom are pieces 1 and 2. The third – and the one that makes the outfit memorable – is something that finishes off the whole look.
That could be a statement piece, an accessory, a scarf. But guess what - she does not consider shoes as a third piece rule.
In her blog The Third Piece Rule. A simple Trick for Instant Style, she offers key third pieces for women and men plus has some great recommendations for garments, accessories and items specifically for men.
If you haven’t already, be sure to follow Hallie on Instagram @thewardrobeconsultant and sign up for her weekly email that is always a dose of practical and inspirational fashion tips that will have you looking fantastic every time you get dressed.
Read The Third Piece Rule. A simple Trick for Instant Style on The Wardrobe Consultant.
]]>Headed to Charleston, SC? The Holy City is a mecca of Low Country fare ands some of the best dining you will find in the South. While it is impossible to name favorites, here are a handful that are among our absolute musts when we our home away from home.
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Headed to Charleston, SC? The Holy City is a mecca of Low Country fare and some of the best dining and restaurants you will find in the South.
Because of its proximity to water and extended growing season, the ingredients, fish and produce are among the most fresh and flavorful you can find.
Restaurants pop up at a dizzying pace so competition is fierce to stay booked and in business through the years. One thing is certain: You will be pushing the limits on your waistband for all the eating and drinking to be done. (Which means you will want to pack some outfit changes in your Hanger Valet to accommodate your growing figure, wink wink.)
After visiting more than 20 times in the last 14 years, Charleston has become our home away from home. In that time we have found some incredible restaurants that are always on our list. Likewise, we always try and fit in a couple of newcomers (and generally avoid the super touristy spots).
For the most part, reservations are recommended at any time of the year, especially if your group is large (5 or more). Due to Covid, reservations are required at many restaurants.
While it is impossible to name favorites, here are a handful that are among our absolute musts when we visit.
Located on King Street, Butcher & Bee is a hive of local flavors, unique flavor profiles and interesting spirits. While they boast an impressive selection of sandwiches, salads and large plates, we never pass up the whipped feta. Thirsty? Butcher & Bee offers cool cocktails, wine by the glass or bottle plus local beers on draft or beyond by the bottle. Whatever you do, don’t miss on grabbing something sweet or grainy from the bakery.
Located on Sullivan’s Island, The Obstinate Daughter is a casual raw bar, wood fired pizza and all around Low Country Italian inspired spot. Oysters are offered daily with an interesting take on mignonettes. We never pass up the Anson Mills Farro Piccolo, Peach & Prosciutto or oysters. Fan of gin? Be sure to order The William Moultrie – a signature cocktail of High Wire Hatrick gin (my favorite), cucumber water, key lime, grapefruit and basil and served on tap.
Located inside the Belmond in the heart of downtown Charleston, The Palmetto Café is a serene and upscale casual refuge from the daytime Charleston heat. Giant windows beckon light into the space and an indoor wall fountain offers the sounds of being outside on the garden but with air conditioned temps. The portions are huge and every single dish is as fresh as you can imagine. We’ve never gone wrong with the Yellow Gazpacho, Crab Salad, Palmetto Sampler or Shrimp Tacos. The menu changes seasonally but some items remain eternal like the 21 Burger.
It’s hard to pick a favorite, but we have to say The Ordinary is a restaurant we would never think of missing on a trip to the Holy City. Located on upper King and inside an historic bank, The Ordinary serves perhaps some of the best oysters in the city. The wine list and services are equally as impressive. The hot and cold menu changes with the season and always boasts the freshest of catches and bites. Plat du jours never change including a Sunday Fish Fry and Friday Baked Stuffed Lobster among others.
Fried Chicken. Oysters. Champagne. Rose on Tap. Frozen gin & tonics. You might think think this is heaven but actually it is Leon’s Oyster Shop located on way Upper King. Housed inside a former auto garage, the space is super casual and great for a party of 2 or 20 (but be sure to make reservations for parties of 5 or more). Don’t miss the Siam Salad with fried chicken, The Chicken Sandwich, hush puppies, Black Eye Pea Salad. And of course the oysters from the oyster board.
For cocktails. For lunch. For dinner. For brunch. For anything – Husk is a Southern food must do. Located on Queen Street in the heart of downtown Charleston, Husk offers some of the most hearty comfort food presented by the highest of Southern charm. Brunch is our favorite and is so large and filling we generally are full all day. The menu changes often and by the season but at all times is delicious.
Located on lower King, Millers serves reinvented south brunch food All Day. Start with a Bloody Mary (they have a few to choose from), carafe of mimosa or one of their other fun cocktails (Green Tea Mojito yes please) and pair with the waffles, biscuit sandwiches or bowls. There is a strong grit presence at Millers thanks to the Geechie Boy co-ownership.
]]>Influencers on social media are great because they provide a ton of content on trends and sales and provide a constant source of inspiration of what to wear. But how often have you been influenced to purchase something only to find when it arrives it looks completely different on you?
That is where an image consultant or a personal stylist can help. What you will spend in their services will have a direct and immediate ROI for your closet. With their help and guidance, you will spend more wisely and wear everything you buy because they will help you buy what looks best on you.
But it can also feel a little overwhelming when it comes time to pick a personal stylist. How do you know you will click with them. Will they make you throw out all your clothes (the answer is no). Will they listen to you and understand your style.
Over the years I have worked with a number of stylists - from in store sales consultants at Nordstrom to personal stylists for events or for revamping my wardrobe for my after baby body.
Since launching The Hanger Valet, I've had the good fortune of expanding my stylist network and have come to know some very impressive and talented stylists across the country.
With that in mind, I'm lending some advice on how to pick a personal stylist and recommendations on stylists you will love. A bonus is that a few of them are even able to work remotely so you can get to work on your after-Covid wardrobe plus make additions through the seasons and years ahead.
Knowing your needs and how much you are comfortable spending will help you narrow in on a stylist and budget. Things to consider:
Turn to fashionable friends or sales associates at your favorite stores for advice.
Use Google and social media to help narrow in your demographic and geographic location.
Keep in mind that a stylist is dressing for themselves and their body type. If you align with the spirit of the stylists but not necessarily every item they wear, that is okay. If you hate everything about their style, then maybe they are not for you.
Most stylists I know value their time and how they spend it. So they are perfectly happy having an introduction call to determine if you and the stylist will be a good fit for each other.
When you talk to them, ask how they work and charge.The more clear you are about what you need and are looking for, the better they are able to help you create a wardrobe you will love to wear.
We've compiled a running list of some of our favorite image consultants and stylists from across the country, many of which can meet virtually. Take a look at their businesses, follow them on social and reach out to work with them if you think you are aligned in style. We promise it is one of the best investments you will make in your closet (next to a Hanger Valet, wink wink).
IG: @thewardrobeconsultant
Hallie Abrams is a fashion stylist, styling real people for real life in all shapes and sizes. As an independent stylist, she shops your closet first and then turns to department stores, boutiques, consignment, discount, online and brick and mortar stores to create a wardrobe that fits your lifestyle and your budget.
IG: @the_blondemom
Kendra Bissig is a practical fashion stylist and personal shopper. She weaves high end items with discount and rental items to give her clients - both female and male - a well rounded wardrobe that they can wear for events, work or simply every day. Her high enthusiasm Instagram account will have you swooning over the coolest looks and laughing at the best memes.
IG: @theartistryofyou
As an image consultant and stylist, Pat Gibson is uniquely positioned to work with female clients to develop a consistent and powerful visual brand by building a strong sense of their personal style, coloring, body architecture, and wardrobe, so they can confidently show up every day for every occasion. Pat offers a number of packages but from experience, I recommend starting with a color analysis so your new and improved wardrobe is created from colors, patterns and textures that flatter you best.
IG: @therealchachaolivia
Theodora is uniquely positioned as a stylist given her area of study in psychology in education and a career in women's retail. She innately understands how anxious getting dressed can make women feel and helps to teach them what works best on their body type and how to shop for garments that fit and flatter.
She often starts by shopping a client's closet first then turns to retail to fill in the gaps with garments to create effortless and stylish outfits. She offers a variety of level of services and can grow with you long term with her Stylist In Your Pocket service where she delivers monthly outfits right to your device.
IG: milehighinheels
And since we are continuing to live in a world where we are mostly being seen from the waist up on Zoom calls and even at our desks when in person, necklaces are particularly important in helping tie the look together and add interest to the outfit.
An easy way to accessorize and feel trendy yet appropriate is with layered necklaces. They work particularly well with v-neck shirts and blouses, which are a universally flattering fit for most body types and face shapes.
But striking the right balance on layered necklaces can be tricky even though it can look so effortless. To understand how to do the layered look, I turned to Hallie Abrams of The Wardrobe Consultant and her tips and tricks and examples on how to layer right.
You can read her Helpful Hints on How to Layer Necklaces here including how to fill up the space, easy rules for layering - including how to mix and match metals - and shop some of Hallie's favorite layered necklaces at a variety of price points.
Learn how to layer necklaces like a stylist.
Be sure to sign up for Hallie's weekly newsletter which is always packed with stylist pro tips on shopping, styling, trends, sales, skin care and so much more. Delivered every Tuesday morning, it is a weekly dose of fashion inspiration and practical advice you will love to read.
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Personally speaking, I'm taking my time researching unique gifts for the people on my list putting quality over quantity and aiming for giving the gift of experience at any chance possible.
As a small business that launched in the middle of this pandemic, I know how important every single sale can be in keeping a business alive and hopes high.
So it is in this light that I created a 2020 Holiday Gift Guide compiled of unique finds from small and specialty stores, experiences you can enjoy from home and practical but special items that will stand the test of time.
Items I have purchased, love and endorse are marked with an *.
Have a unique gift suggestion from a small business or that delivers an experience? I'd love to hear about it. Drop a comment below and I will either add it here or keep it in mind for next year's Gift Guide.
(Side note, these are my thoughts and suggestions with links that go directly to the item. I will NOT receive any kind of commission if you chose to buy any items or support any of these businesses.)
Blaire Ritchey Purse The coolest carry all purse by a Cleveland female entrepreneur. It tops my wish list this year.
Need a style refresh? Book a styling session with one of our favorite stylists or image consultants. We are BIG fans of The Wardrobe Consultant, The Artistry of You, The Blonde Mom and Styled with PersoNatalie to name a few.
Because all the handwashing and sanitizing is doing a number on my hands. This Deborah Lipman cuticle lab will bring infuse some health and life back into your fingertips.
Mini fridge. Frivolous and yet completely practical for storing all those expensive skin care items you've been adding to cart.
The Hanger Valet. Because who couldn’t use a little more organization in their closet or travel?
If you are local to Cleveland and have someone that appreciates bespoke clothing, a custom shirt, suit or accessory from Davide Cotugno Executive Tailors is an elegant and appreciated gift.*
Proof Syrup for mixing up a tasty old fashioned with minimal effort.*
A swanky set of rocks glasses for sipping those old fashioned drinks or just for straight up bourbon.
A turntable for kicking back and relaxing to music (maybe with that old fashioned and rocks glass).
A Yeti Backpack cooler so they can walk to the beach without pulling their back dragging a cooler behind them.
A Mystery Tackle Box subscription for the budding outdoorsman.*
A subscription to Universal Yums so they can travel and snack for 3, 6 or 12 months.*
A beautiful set of dominoes so if they leave them out, it is at least pretty to look at.
A book to spark entrepreneurship, Bee Fearless is a middle grade memoir about life and business from founder of Me & The Bees Lemonade.
The Longest Fold-Out Coloring Book in the World so everyone can get in on the fun.
A pop up mini camper for when they need a little time alone or a nook to read in. (This is the toy I always wished for as a kid.)
An ornament that commemorates this year but in a positive way.
An artisanal hand soap and lotion set from Willow Hill Soap Company to keep those hands clean and moisturized. (They also have an incredible array of body care, beard care and candles.)*
A houseplant subscription to finally become that crazy plant lady you aspire to be.
A pair of timeless home design books by Erin Gates that look beautiful stacked as decoration or serve as interior inspiration when read.*
(Amazon is fine, but give independent bookstores some love this season)
How I Built This because Guy Raz for President and because this is the best book for entrepreneurs of any size.*
Aim big for 2021 with a big goal list. But first, read Brave Not Perfect for inspiration and motivation. *
A hard copy of my most recommended book of all time, The Power of Habits. It explains how habits are made, broken, how advertisers use habits to sell things and so much more. *
Because royal fashion will never go out of style, HRH so many thoughts on royal style is the perfect coffee table book and way to be inspired for when we can get dressed and go out again to big parties.
Make the reason why you hung on to all those CD’s over the years count with a cool CD player.
A Bluetooth portable speaker with microphone because the first party of 2021 should be huge, loud and filled with people screeching lyrics for the neighborhood to hear.*
A custom soundwave art piece to remind someone special of a dedicated song.
If your plans include a lot of hanging out at home over the next few months, then make it fun with a Shaker & Spoon cocktail of the month subscription.*
The newest Barefoot Contessa Modern Comfort Food cookbook because Ina Garten is everything comforting and never has a bad recipe.*
Is there anything better than a box of cookies or a cake that shows up on your doorstep from Milk Bar? I think not.
Repris wine subscription because their virtual wine tastings are top notch and the wine is even better (the Zinfandel is my hands down favorite).*
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We collaborated with three stylists to create on trend and flattering looks that go from casual to dressy with high end, budget, rental and vintage pieces.
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Whether your upcoming holiday is here or there, with just a few or with a group, chances are you are already thinking about what to wear for the holiday events ahead.
I turned to three stunning stylists, Kendra Bissig from The Blonde Mom, Marina from Odessa Girl and Brigitte Marie Foret to help answer the question What to Wear for the Holidays. Their recommendations range from dressed up to comfy but leave you with inspiration and a reason to celebrate the season in style.
IG: @the_blondemom
Book styling services with Kendra
Thanksgiving is all about coziness, traditions, comfort and most importantly – the food. These outfits are perfect for all types of celebrations and weave high end with budget items with rental garments. A little planning will have you feel pulled together, confident and ready to celebrate all the reasons to be thankful this season.
Linen Joggers (similar), Turtleneck, Shoes (similar): Banana Republic Linen joggers: Athleta
Denim Jacket: L’Agence
Headband (similar): Tinsley Allison Designs
Leather Joggers (similar): Rebecca Taylor
Plaid Blazer (similar) and (similar): Rag & Bone
Turtleneck: Banana Republic
Booties: Balenciaga
Blazer: A.L.C (Saks Fifth Avenue), Blazer (similar): (Rent the Runway)
Dress, Dress (similar): Ulla Johnson (Rent the Runway)
Purse: Dior, Purse (similar): (Rent the Runway)
Shoes: ASOS, Booties (similar): ASOS
Sustainable shopping with one of a kind pieces, resale and vintage clothing, accessories and home décor | Cleveland, Ohio
IG: @odessagirl216
Shop looks from Odessa Girl
It's the most wonderful time of the year! There is nothing more magical than spending time with the ones you love and embracing the season. Whether you are sipping champagne or hot chocolate by an outdoor fire with friends or going on a drive to see lights or hosting an intimate evening with family, there has never been a more important reason to wear something festive and fabulous.
Jacket (size l) and alligator clutch available at Odessa Girl. Contact to purchase
Dress (size xs), Coat (size m) and Shoes (size 6) all available through Odessa Girl
Texas based fashion and lifestyle blogger with a love for anything fashion and anti-aging | Corpus Christi, TX
IG: @brigittemarieforet
Shop Brigitte’s looks
Cheers to the New Year and making it through one of the wildest years on record! Though there have been many hardships, there are also countless reasons to celebrate. We could think of no one better to turn for a New Years Eve look that can work for a small celebration at home with one or a few than the woman who knows how to celebrate life and fashion every.single.day.
Brigitte’s Instagram has been a source of inspiration for years, but particularly this year when it has felt like one groundhog’s legging day after another. Personally, she has inspired me to have fun with getting dressed – even if it only meant going to the mailbox.
What we love about these looks is that they are timeless and can certainly be worn for years to come or even deconstructed as other looks for celebratory occasions in 2021, of which there will be many.
Sequin Pants (Zara)
Ruched Poplin Blouse (Zara)
Bag (Similar)
Sequin Pants (Zara)
Dress (Zara)
Bag (Similar)
Typically at this point I am a little overwhelmed with the commitments in my calendar and wonder how I will make it all happen. This year looks a lot different.
I am cautiously optimistic – with a healthy dose of realistic – in planning outfits and buying wardrobe updates for the everyday plus some fun upcoming events.
After a spring of leggings and summer of flowy dresses, I’m ready to get dressed for the day again. There is something about putting together an outfit that just makes me feel human and polished.
This year, I'm looking for versatile and quality garments that I can wear as an everyday outfit and feel confident going from a Zoom meeting to a grocery run to grabbing an outdoor lunch and settling in with a fire and glass of wine at night. Rather than quantity, I'm zeroing in on quality this season.
Since I am not a seasoned and certified stylist, I turned to three experts to get their take on what we should be buying for fall including a few transitional pieces that can help us navigate the up and down temps that are inherent of the season.
Certified Personal Stylist and Wardrobe Consultant | Rexburg, Idaho
IG: styledwithpersonatalie
My top absolute must-have favorite piece I always recommend for fall is the plaid blazer. This versatile piece comes in every price range and never fails to make a woman look stunning. I love to layer them over a thin hoodie to fall football games with my jeans and sneakers, or add one over a v neck cashmere sweater with black leather leggings and suede knee high boots, or toss one over a graphic tee, cuffed ripped jeans and booties. They are also beautiful to add over a belted dress or with a business skirt. Plaid blazers are the reason I can give up my beautiful summer nights.
Natalie recommends this Isabel Marant Étoile Kerstin Plaid Wool Blazer from Nordstrom
Animal prints have long been a wardrobe staple for stylish women, but I think the trend will be in full force for fall. The leopard slip midi skirt may have reigned for two summers in a row, but that was only the beginning of the Great Animal revival! From leopards to snake print overload and new prints including cow and tiger, there are endless options to take your look to the wild side this fall. I chose some slouchy knee high snake skin boots to add to many of my fall looks. Take a walk on the wild side this fall and see what you think!
Natalie recommends this Sanctuary Pleat It Midi Pony Print Skirt
Certified Image Consultant, Stylist and Speaker | Cleveland, Ohio
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Turtlenecks are a classic that are making a comeback - sleeveless for right now, and then with puffed sleeves or cutouts to stand on its own or with a vest for later. We’re seeing turtlenecks with a focus on the waist as tops, jackets and dresses with tie waists which is flattering to most figures. As an added plus we are seeing all shades of white, including brilliant white, which is idea for women with cool and clear coloring (like me). This crisp white is smashing with black, hunter green, or a chocolate brown for fall.
Pat recommends this A.L.C. Parker Sleeveless Turtleneck Top from Saks (and found in her Fall Lookbook)
Fall is all about cozy and comfortable. The best way to feel comfortable and look good time and again is to reach for quality fabrics and cuts that will stand the test of time and wear. I’m loving coats that can pull double duty – both as an accessory and as a layer of warmth when running errands or dining alfresco with friends and family. Look for fabrics with some texture and colors that flatter your skin, eye and hair color.*
*Side Note: I worked with Pat years ago on a color analysis and recommend it to anyone that wants to save money, time and frustration when shopping for makeup or clothing or even when picking out the right shade of hair color. Investing in a color analysis with Pat saved me thousands of future dollars in my closet as I was only picking colors that genuinely worked with my color tones.
Pat recommends this BB Dakota Revolution Drapey Bouclé Trench Coat from Nordstrom (Above) or this Houndstooth Poncho from Boston Proper (Below). Look for these and Pat's other recommendations in her Fall Lookbook)
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Iva Marie's Fall Transition Piece: Leather Moto Jacket
As we transition into fall, here in the south we need to take baby steps into that Pumpkin Spice Fall Feeling! You want to feel like fall, and dress the part, but with warmer weather how do you do it? My recommendations: a versatile moto, a fun midi and warm gold jewelry.
What's great about a Moto jacket is that it adds a cool factor and a fall look to summer dresses and favorite tanks you can wear now. Wear it later with a sweater for a true fall look. Not into leather? Try faux!
Iva Marie recommends this Chelsea 28 Leather Moto Jacket from Nordstrom.
Flirty and flattering, check! The pleated skirt can be worn sweet and romantic with a flat (great for warmer weather) or cool and sophisticated with knee high boot. This skirt is great for wear now in early fall and later on with a cozy sweater. I love the versatility of a pleated skirt!
Iva Marie recommends this Chloe Botanical Floral Pleated Plisse Midi Skirt from Neiman Marcus.
Gold jewelry, especially layered or chunky, adds a fall element to any look. I love the trick of adding gold to my favorite lightweight looks to feel more fall.
Iva Marie recommends this Answer Toggle Front Coin Necklace from Julio Designs. Look for more of Iva Marie's recommendations in her Fall Transition Style Lookbook.
I might not be a trained or certified stylist, but I do love the art of creating outfits - especially in fall and summer.
Since the WFH movement is here to stay for another season or two at least, I'm reaching for every day versatile pieces that can go casual or dressed up with a simple accessory or shoe change.
Some items I’ve added to my Fall 2020 wardrobe:
I scored this deal during the Nordstrom Anniversary Sale. It’s now sold out but similar items can be found online. I’m envisioning this to take me from t-shirt and jeans to blouse and booties all with a simple zip in or out of the hoodie.
I’ve been adding these and other looks to The Hanger Valet Pinterest Fall 2020 Board if you would like to see.
Tell me what you have done to update your Fall wardrobe.
And of course, if you are a little lost and would like some personalized style direction, please reach out to Natalie, Pat and Iva to help you define and rock your Fall wardrobe.
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Quite honestly I'm sick of leggings and am ready to feel more put together when I leave the house even if for a grocery run. Too many days in a row of "comfy clothes" leaves me feeling a little lazy and rudderless.
There are so many brands of denim that give a structured look but offer a ton of stretch. Some favorites are Paige, AG and Wit & Wisdom. I recently tried on a pair of Loft denim and was impressed not only with the fit and construction, but also with the price.
Since it has been a minute since we have worn denim, it’s also been a minute since we’ve thought about how to clean denim.
Here are a few helpful reminders about how to care for and extend the life of your denim.
If possible, hang denim rather than folding in a drawer. Doing so will allow for the fabric to breathe between wearing’s and prevent creases from forming from being folded.
Hanging your denim where you can find it also makes it easy to organize your outfits. Plan ahead, choose undergarment and accessories and bundle it all together with the help of The Hanger Valet for easy mornings.
Keep in mind when hanging that dark dyed denim should not come in contact with light or white colored fabrics as the color can run off. Color coding your closet with whites to darks is an easy way to keep your garments safe and your closet visually organized.
In ordinary times, it always takes a few weeks – if not a month – of school to get into a good routine. Not to sound dramatic, but I don’t feel we have that option this year. With a hybrid learning model, limited sports activities returning and two parents working from home, the fall is bound to get intense. Which means we need to work on getting into a better routine starting now.
This year I’ve implemented a Back To School Bootcamp of sorts to get the kids (and us) mentally prepared and logistically wired to handle the upcoming season.
Here’s are some things on my B2SB timeline list if you’d like to see…
For reference my kids are 12 and 9 so things like making lunches and researching destinations to visit are within their skillset. Whatever your children's ages, there are ways to age appropriately get them prepared for the change that comes with earlier wake ups and more structured days.
Above all, the name of the game here is to create a calm transition and position us to better acclimate to the big changes ahead.
To those that have already gone back to school, what advice, tips and tricks do you have to share? I’m all ears!
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½ cup pepitas
½ cup sunflower seeds
¾ cup sliced almonds
¾ cup unsweetened coconut flakes
2 Tablespoons chia seeds
½ teaspoon kosher salt
½ teaspoon ground cinnamon (optional)
5 Tablespoons extra virgin olive oil
5 Tablespoons honey
1 teaspoon vanilla extract
Sprinkle over yogurt and berries for an easy morning, protein-packed breakfast. Keep on counter for 1 week or in fridge for 2 weeks.
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Put on your fanciest sweatpants, pop some champagne and popcorn and settle in for the 5 best and most timeless fashion documentaries to watch.
The links have been updated since the Blog's original posting. Some movies can be streamed while others you might have to buy the old fashioned way on Amazon or access your local library to rent.
Go big or go home. Iris Apel is the fashion, interior design and style icon known for her big round black eye glasses and larger than life costume couture jewelry. This documentary peeks into her life, how she adds to her eclectic selection of clothing, jewelry, accessories, and home design, and her theory on the truth and poetry of style. Iris remains a fashion icon at 98 years young today. Iris was released in 2015 but remains in style.
Watch Iris on Amazon Prime here
Watch the trailer here
Pro tip: If you are someone that loves accessories, you will love this documentary. And if you are someone who has a lot of accessories that you pair with outfits, you will love The Hanger Valet to keep you organized on the daily or when traveling.
As the rise of online and boutique retailers fuel the fashion world of today, it is important to pay respect to the department stores that were the pioneers of the retail world. Bergdorf Goodman is arguably the epitome of New York City. To designers, if your clothing is not carried at Bergdorf’s, then “you have no future” Isaac Mizrahi. Go behind the windows and into the heart of what makes the store tick in this oldie (2013) but goodie documentary.
Watch Scatter My Ashes at Bergdorf here
Watch the trailer here
Which came first: street style or Bill Cunningham and his camera? Even Anna Wintour was eager to be captured by the click of Bill’s camera. This street style fashion documentary tells the tale of how an unassuming man rolling around NYC on a bike and in his now famous blue raincoat drove the street style fashion world with his eye for style. Bill passed away in 2016 but his memory lives eternal with this film.
Watch Bill Cunningham New York on Amazon Prime here
Watch the trailer here
Anna Wintour is the boss of fashion, obviously. Go inside the world and behind the cover of Vogue and what it takes to put out the biggest fashion issue of the year. This 2009 documentary never goes out of style because as Anna says “Fashion is not about looking backward; it’s about looking forward.”
Watch The September Issue on Amazon Prime here
Watch the trailer here
If you missed seeing the fashions at The Met Gala this year due to Covid, then sink in for this documentary from 2015 which follows the planning and execution of the show China: Through the Looking Glass. Can fashion be art? The First Monday in May makes the case that it can and does. Go behind the scenes to see what goes into planning and executing what André calls the Super Bowl of social fashion events.
Watch The First Monday in May on Amazon Prime here
Watch the trailer here
There are a handful of documentaries I love that I can't easily produce streaming links for. But if you are up for the challenge, you might love these as well:
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Whether it is a weekend getaway or a weeks-long trip away, make the most of your vacation and keep life simple and relaxing by getting and staying organized.
Here are some simple steps, tips and strategies to get you into the relax zone and keep you there for longer:
Have a hack that works for you or your family? Share it here or on our social pages. And if you are hitting the road this summer, safe travels and enjoy your time away!
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How often have you stood in front of your clothes feeling overwhelmed by the number of choices? Streamlining your wardrobe options not only helps you get ready easier, it also makes getting dressed more empowering and fun.
Imagine a world of jeans and pants that fit or blouses and tops that fit and flatter. Imagine never feeling frumpy or self conscious because undergarments are ill fitting or shoes have been nicked and worn down.
The time you put in now to letting go of items that no longer serve you will return in spades on mornings when you are getting ready (or on weekends when you are putting together outfits with The Hanger Valet).
Here’s your permission slip to get rid of 6 types of things and make getting dressed fun and empowering again.
Memories are often attached to the items that have seen the most “love” in our wardrobe. And for this reason, they are the hardest to say goodbye to. But if that black shirt is more of a green black or there are pills of fabric emerging from where a sleeve rubs against the body (and it can’t be fixed), it is time to say goodbye.
If you love it so much, then do your best to find a replacement. The style will likely have been updated (which is the point) but you’ll know it will be in heavy rotation again.
Maybe the dryer did shrink those jeans. Or maybe the jelly beans did it. Whatever the reason, holding onto items that no longer fit and flatter will actually make you feel worse about yourself in the long run. Let. It. Go. Dress for the body you have now, not the one you wish for.
Weight fluctuates for a number of reasons. Sometimes sales have us buying things that aren’t our normal size but were too good a deal to pass up.
Try it on and get serious. If it gaps or drapes or calls attention to areas that should not be called attention to, let it go. If your eye goes there, can you imagine what a boss, client, customer or stranger may think?
This can be the hardest for so many because replacing items no one sees can be expensive and annoying. But the reality is undergarments are a foundation for everything that goes on top. If the foundation is strong, the house will be too.
If it hurts, stop wearing it. If you are gripping your toes to keep a shoe on, it does not fit. If you are walking like a baby giraffe, the shoe is not for you. If you are using a sharpie to color it, stop and toss.
After editing shoes, you’ll likely find a handful of brands that remain in your closet. This is an indicator of a good fit and style you trend toward. So when you find yourself ogling the sale rack again, keep committed to brands that you love and stand the fit test.
Sometimes these items can be timeless and classic. A little love from a leather conditioning or a polish can bring them back to life.
But many times these items are just worn and tired and need to retire.
Significant closet edits can really bring out all the feels. Realize the work you put in to saying goodbye means you are creating a better and functional wardrobe.
]]>A closet does not stand a chance of getting – or staying – organized if clothing is outdated, in bad shape or doesn’t make you look and feel your best. Why? Because excess garments create visual clutter. And visual clutter causes stress and slows you down when getting ready.
Think about how many times you’ve been in a mad panic to get dressed for work or an event only to find that the outfit that you imagined in looks terrible on your body.
How can this be avoided? Take the time to ruthlessly edit your closet so it can function for you and your lifestyle. And from the edit, assemble outfits before attempting to get ready in the morning.
Let’s begin.
Setting time aside means you won’t get side tracked or overwhelmed. It likely took years to get to this point; it won’t take minutes to undo it. Go into the project rested and ready to see it through to the end. And it doesn’t hurt to have a fun playlist or a buddy there to help you make decisions.
Head into your closet as if you were heading to work. Do your hair and makeup so when you try on garments, it is a true representation of what it would look like if you were leaving for the day.
Bring a pad of paper and pen or use Notes in your phone. You’ll want to keep track of items that need to be replaced, sizes that you wear in a certain brand and notes about what to buy to round out your wardrobe.
Have pictures from catalogs or from a board on Pinterest that are inspiration for seasonal outfits. Knowing what you want to look like will help you evaluate what you have and help you assemble outfits when you get to Step 6.
This is an important first step. Removing everything helps you see what you have and what you are holding onto. There is a true blast of mental clarity to follow this approach as opposed to leafing through garments while they are in the closet.
Take the time once everything is out of the closet to dust and vacuum so that everything that is returned to the closet is going back to a tidy spot.
Start with clothing you love. If you are certain it fits, review it for any rips, stains or dirt. Only return items in perfect condition to your closet and set aside those that need to be laundered or dry cleaned.
Next, review every garment and ask why you are keeping it. Does it make you feel confident when you wear it? Does it bring back a memory? Have you not worn it because you don’t have anything to wear it with? What does it look like when you try it on?
Organize piles in Love, Like and Hate. If you Love it, back it goes to the closet. If you Like it but need more time with it, set it aside to do a second review. If you Hate it, then put it in a pile on your floor.
If you find yourself getting overwhelmed by decisions, then choose to do just to focus one color at a time. Trying on black shirt after black shirt will show you a direct comparison and help you decide what is worth keeping or giving away.
Put the items you are choosing to keep back into your freshly cleaned closet. Hang blouses, shirts, tanks, tees, pants, dresses and skirts. Fold sweaters, especially cashmere, as much as you can.
Organize your garments by color first and then by sleeve length next. For instance, start to the left with white tanks then white short sleeve shirts and then long sleeve. Continue for yellow, red, orange, green, blue, grey, black, etc.
From the items you are giving away, choose if they can be sold, donated or recycle. Read How to Sell, Donate and Recycle Your Old Clothes.
With a fresh, clean and clear view of what you have, it’s time to put that closet to work!
Drawing outfit inspiration from magazines or Pinterest, create outfits for the upcoming week. Don’t just assemble an outfit in your head. Take the extra few minutes to try the items on including adding accessories like jewelry, scarves and shoes.
Store and organize those outfits (including appropriate undergarments) using The Hanger Valet either as a daily outfit organizer or as a Monday through Friday outfit organizer.
Assemble your outfits for the upcoming work week including Saturday. On Sunday return to your closet and repeat the outfit planning process.
While there is conflicting statistics on how many days it takes to form and keep a habit, we know that taking the time to plan ahead creates a calmer morning. And like a cup of coffee, a calm morning can be a ritual worth keeping.
]]>Teaching your kids how to be organized will take some work and patience on your part, especially if you like to get things done fast and efficiently. Keep in mind kids need space to learn and learn from mistakes.
Below are strategies for teaching kids organizational skills you can start today.
Keep order in the house and have children be part of the process by creating an age appropriate calendar. Include things like:
If you have young children, use stickers or graphics to help them understand what happens what day and how to plan ahead.
For kids who struggle with time management, create a schedule or checklist that they can refer to and stay on task. Post in a clear space so less time is spent opening a drawer or notebook to find a piece of paper.
For example your schedule can look like:
Our kids both play lacrosse and have lots to remember for practice. We post a checklist outside by their gear so they can run through their bag and make sure they have everything. It saves us from mentally going through the list and keeps them accountable. Their lacrosse list looks like:
We all do best when there is a sense of routine to the day. It is what helps us anticipate what is next and to manage our time throughout the day. This is especially true when nurturing your child's organizational skills.
Work with your child to establish a routine for the morning, after school and on weekend mornings.
If kids know upon coming home that they need to wash up, put away backpacks or do homework, there will be less to fight about.
Just as going to work is a fact of life, so are chores for children. Studies show that kids who do chores at a young age are more likely to be successful as they grow up.
Establishing a set of age-appropriate chores for children helps them understand the value of working and of taking pride in a job well done.
Wondering what is is an age appropriate chore for your 5 year old? This list offers age appropriate chores for kids 2 - 18 years old.
Keep in mind doing chores is not something children innately know how to do. You will need to take the time to teach them techniques and be patient as they take much longer to do it than you would.
Teaching kids how to be organized likely will start with you. This doesn't mean every room in your house has to be perfect. But it does mean that the area you are putting your child in charge of staying organized has to be one that can be maintained by them.
Don’t forget to reward your child for their efforts and achievements. Recognizing kids for their work and perseverance builds confidence and esteem.
If their “work” is to help stay organized and prepared, then it is within reason the should be “paid” for their efforts.
Paying children for their contribution also lays the foundation for appreciating and managing money in the future.
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The best rule of thumb to follow is to look at the quality of the garment. If your gently worn garments are in good condition with no tears or stains, they can likely be sold.
Is it ripped or torn, soiled or stained? If so, it belongs in the recycled pile.
While it may seem easy to throw clothes away, stop to think about the sobering statistics of textiles in landfills.
Consumers throw away shoes and clothing, rather than recycling, an average of 70 pounds per person annually.
The main source of textiles in municipal solid waste (MSW) is discarded clothing. In fact, the EPA estimates that in 2017, 11.2 million tons of textile MSW went to landfills, accounting for 8 percent of all MSW landfilled.
Of the textiles that wind up in a landfill, biodegradable materials such as cotton may decompose in 5 months. But non-biodegradable textiles such as polyester, spandex, nylon and rayon can take between 20 to 200 years.
In a world of fast fashion where some items may not even make it past a third washing, this adds an unnecessary burden on our landfills.
So if your clothing can not be sold or donated, it really should go in a recycle pile.
Now sit back and enjoy how your newly edited closet works for you and the satisfaction of making a greener choice (or enjoying some green in your pocket).
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